In response to how I recently wrote a lil thing for Tom Tom Magazine (on the internets) (find it if you want) and talked about aforementioned experience at punk space with no toilet paper while on my period, and a dude I know commented on a link to it saying “TMI.”
i tried to find this to go into facebook girl gang mode but i couldn’t find it. good work though all involved.
pretty sure all the bands tonight have girls in them too. at least three outta four.
what if you are all menstruating
I was gonna post about how this place is exactly like the squirrel (basementy thing, guy who runs it lives here and his name has the same syllable pattern, mannequin parts, garage door, art, bikes, same furniture, dopplegangers of athens people and even a guy wearing an athens…
Yeah I know, that’s why I posted it. I’m just on my phone though so I’m trying to be brief (fail). The dude invited us to stay here which NO
APPRECIATED! you should totally stay there and just leave all your bloody tampons everywhere
I was gonna post about how this place is exactly like the squirrel (basementy thing, guy who runs it lives here and his name has the same syllable pattern, mannequin parts, garage door, art, bikes, same furniture, dopplegangers of athens people and even a guy wearing an athens band tshirt, etc) but then I went to the bathroom and there is no toilet paper (I searched hxc) and not even a fucking trash can. Maybe it’s cause I’m bleeding but this sent me into a blind rage. I don’t normally use tampons (sea sponges yall) but I’m on tour so whatever but what the fuck am I supposed to do? Carry around a bloody tampon in my back pocket? Smear it all over the shower? Hide it in the ceiling?
SUPER RELEVANT TO PREVIOUS DISCUSSION
if they do not give you a place to put yr bloody tampons that is them giving you permission to put yr bloody tampons anywhere you want.
This is how the so-called “radical” space known as 16 Beaver St. painted its restrooms. Apparently all femme-looking folks squat on toilets, and all masculine-looking folks use urinals. I bet they thought it was cute to be like, “heehee, let’s be different and paint a ponytail instead of a skirt!” But no, it’s cissexist and I feel sorry for anyone who has to walk up to that bathroom and have a dysphoric reaction to being told their gender doesn’t match what they’ll use to pee.
Hack off the ponytail, or give both of them ponytails and we’ll be cool.
relevant to my gender and punk bathrooms series
so a few of y’all probably remember when i wrote about gender & punk house bathrooms in athens, or athens punk house bathrooms as implicitly *cis male spaces. so today i wanna talk about one of the squats’ bathrooms, which is pretty much explicitly for all genders
instead of no toilet paper:
AND a goddamn wine glass full of tampons:
this is the least implicitly cis dude gender-neutral bathroom i have ever been in.
SO i wanna discuss “punk bathrooms as a way of keeping an implicit male space” today because it is a topic i have been thinking about a lot. this discussion is kind of like, gender-binary-y, but i assume it works the same for all female-bodied people without like, a go girl or other similar device.
in my punk house experience (and i am talking about roughly three different houses here that regularly hold punk shows) most of them have no toilet paper, like, ever, and of the ones that do it’s like a 50/50 shot it’ll be there. in two, the doors don’t lock. in one, there is no toilet seat at all AND the doors don’t lock.
this is a way big deal for girls vs boys cause it is way easier to get around “gross toilet situation” if you are a dude—worst case scenario, you can just go outside (which frequently happens) you’ve got options. plus it takes you less time on average, so the likelihood of someone walking in on you is greatly decreased assuming the doors don’t lock.
i feel like this is a way to keep punk shows an implied male space, f’real. esp cause complaining that the bathroom is too gross for you to use is totally something that would get people being like OH WOMEN, EVERYTHING HAS TO BE UP TO THEIR ~HIGH STANDARDS~ or something. at least, i’ve heard women complain about that stuff to other women but never to like, the people who live at the houses or the show organizers or anything, and i’m assuming this is why.
(solutions: getting go girls, peeing everywhere?)